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Sunday, March 10, 2013

Three Qs at Funeral

Hi, Friends, did you enjoy a weekend? I attended a funeral.
Have you ever thought of  "three questions"? 

What is the best time to do each thing?
Who are the most important people to work with?
What is the most important thing to do at all times?

A sudden death shocks anyone close.   
A former camera club member suddenly rang me up (*Once, me, too, a member). His wife passed away. The old couple cherished me like a daughter. The husband said he wanted to see me. 

... his call made me blue, dark blue. I began to wonder about life... thought of many things, which brought me down...
A bit strange feeling... the wife certainly remained in my heart. Indeed, she began to pull me back to the past. But was it a good thing to get stuck in a past? 


To refresh myself, I went to Narrabeen beach in the evening. Luckily, I could see a dear friend! I was thinking of flowers and etc for a funeral. The dear friend cheered me up.  "He wants to see you. That's the most important thing! You do not need to bring flowers. Church will organise them. There might be donation instead of flowers and a book you can leave comments." I see.    
We enjoyed a long chat over job, swimming, family business. We hugged each other, saying, "See ye next time!"

At the funeral, in a prayer, I promised the wife to make lots of beautiful picture books and art works! I thought of the ongoing picture book illu, not of the past. The husband, his daughter and me cried lot together. Sharing tears and hugs were lovely. It let out overwhelmed emotions and gone. The daughter said to me, "Mother was very fond of you. You came a long way. It has a meaning." Attendances had a good time over lunch that became like a camera club reunion!

On the same day, I submitted a reorganised storyboard to Editor.
Blog friends lifted me up, too.
One said, "We all can be gone tomorrow so cherish today fully (as if I need to tell you this - you are the poster child for positive thinking and seizing the day!!)" Brillinat! Yes, it's me!! Com'on Sadami!
How nice my friends are! They are more precious than gold.

Then, when I really got back to normal, cheeky Sadami, I  remembered "Three Questions" written by Leo Tolstoy. 

The answers below. Tolstoy's story shows how to live life fully. I like these answers, although, of course, different views and critical analyses are respected.
  • The most important time is now. The present is the only time over which we have power.
  • The most important person is whoever you are with.
  • The most important thing is to do good to the person you are with.
I seemed to answer well to "my life" in a sad context with friends' help. Friends, let us live life fully! I feel every moment is like my birthday, seriously!
Happy Painting!!


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44 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post, Sadami. I'm so sorry about your friend's passing. I can tell from your words how very special she was. The gesture you made to attend the funeral and offer your support to the family was so meaningful. Just showing people that we care and we understand they are in pain... it means so much. I like what you said about whether to continue looking back at the past, or to look ahead to future with renewed purpose... I know you'll do just that. You are so good at collaborating with others and sharing your abilities and ideas to accomplish good things and to involve others in your successes. :)

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    1. Dear Katherine,
      Thank you very much! But I'm back to happy Sadami and will move on. Yes, the lady was very nice to me. But also, like you agreed with me, it's important to seize this moment and look into a future. That's what we need to live our lives fully.
      Katherine, I believe "sharing" is the key to be happiness. We cannot be happy alone. Or in a precise meaning, it's not the right way to being happy. If we can share, even pains, negative feelings, we can become positive and happy, we know. (at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while for me to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.)
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  2. Beautifully said, Sadami. I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend.

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    1. Dear Carol,
      Thank you very much for your kindness. But I'm back to happy Sadami and will move on.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  3. Sadami, Sadami!! Qué buena eres!!! Qué gran corazón tienes!!! Por todo ello te aprecio tanto. Además de dibujar como los ángeles!
    Eres una buena amiga en la distancia terrenal, pero mucho más cercana de corazón.
    Un beso.

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    1. Estimado Joshemari, muchas gracias! Sí, el amigo es invisible, pero se queda en mi corazón. Voy a seguir adelante y llevar a cabo la promesa. Tú también tienes un corazón maravilloso y grande. Usted, también, disfrutar de la vida y la obra de arte.
      Mis mejores deseos, Sadami
      (por el momento, mi adaptador de alimentación del equipo necesita ser reemplazado. Técnicamente, se necesita un tiempo para que vuelva a la normalidad. Entienda por favor si no me dejen comentarios en su blog.)

      Dear Joshemari, thank you very much! Yes, the friend is invisible, but stays in my heart. I'll move on and carry out the promise. You,too, have a wonderful and great heart. You, too, enjoy life and art work.
      Best wishes, Sadami

      >>>Joshemari said...
      Sadami, Sadami! How good you are! What a great heart you have! Therefore I appreciate you both. In addition to drawing like angels!
      You're a good friend in the distance on earth, but much closer to heart.
      A kiss.

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  4. Siempre en momentos extremos en nuestra vida, como un funeral, nos seguimos preguntando esas cosas. Creo que lo seguiremos haciendo. Y creo que la respuesta es la que tu dás, el presente, las personas que amamos, la vida... Has ilustrado estos pensamientos con unas acuarelas magnificas!. Un abrazo.

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    1. Gracias, Tina! Tengo que seguir adelante y vivir la vida plenamente. Tú, también, disfrutar de su vida y el dibujo!
      en este momento, mi adaptador de alimentación del equipo necesita ser reemplazado. Técnicamente, se necesita un tiempo para que vuelva a la normalidad. Entienda por favor si no me dejen comentarios en su blog.)
      Mis mejores deseos, Sadami

      >>>Tina said...
      Always in extreme moments in our lives, like a funeral, we continue to ask these things. I think it will continue to do. And I think the answer is that you give, the present, the people we love, life ... You have illustrated these thoughts with a magnificent watercolors!. A hug.

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  5. You write as good as you paint. The expressions on each of the faces are amazing.

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    1. Dear AK,
      Thank you very much! Yes, face expressions are very interesting for me. Let us enjoy drawing and painting!! (at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while for me to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.)
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  6. Sadami, first a big huuuuug for you, I'm sorry for your loss, second a big THANK YOU for always making us think, I love to peek at the world through your eyes :)

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    1. Ooohhh! Teresa, thanks millions!! I feel your hugs!!! That's so cosy and nice. Now, with your hugs, I can come back to happy Sadami and will move on. Very happy to know you enjoy sharing something with me. I believe "sharing" is the key to be happiness. We cannot be happy alone. Or in a precise meaning, it's not the right way to being happy. If we can share, even pains, negative feelings, we can become positive and happy, we know. (at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while for me to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.)
      Best wishes, hugs, Sadami

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  7. so sorry for your loss of your friend sadami .... take care.



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    1. Dear Jane,
      Thank you very much!! I'm back to happy Sadami and will move on. Above all, I have to carry out the promise with the lady to make beautiful picture books!
      Best wishes, Sadami
      (**at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while for me to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.)

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  8. Love the paintings of photographers :) And your post about the loss and the fear and the sadness - it's always okay to be sad over a loss but also remember the joy of sharing time with that person. I LOVE your three questions and answers - should be something we all write down and carry around with us, in a purse, a pocket, a sketchbook :) Have a wonderful week, dear Sadami!!

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    1. Ohh, Rhonda!
      Thank you very much! With your support, I'm back to happy Sadami and will move on. Thank you for having accepted my sadness. Yes, like you said, I believe "sharing" is the key to be happiness. We cannot be happy alone. Or in a precise meaning, it's not the right way to being happy. If we can share, even pains, negative feelings, we can become positive and happy, we know.
      Yeah, we might as well keep those answers round us to make our world happy.
      You, too, please take care.
      (at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.)
      Best wishes, Sadami

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    1. Thank you so much!!!

      >>>Manuel said..
      As always, fantástiken!

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  10. Sadami, your post is so positive and life-affirming, as always. Thank you for the link to Tolstoy's story, it formulates these basic principles, that we kind of intuitively know, and illustrates them very well.
    I love your sketches. One can feel the concentration of the photographers.
    Have a very nice week!

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    1. Hi, Blaga, thank you very much! Very happy to know you have shared something important with me. Tolstoy wrote short stories as well as long famous ones. I, a lazy reader, read through his short ones. Quite good. Some of them have been published as children picture books, do you know? Yes, let us live our lives fully and enjoy drawing and painting. \
      You, too, have a nice week!!
      Best wishes, Sadami
      **at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.

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  11. Beautiful post! I am sorry about you losing your friend. I absolutely love the three questions and the answers- will write it down for myself! and of course the sketches are lively :) take care!

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    1. Dear Meera, thank you very much! Very happy to know you have shared something important with me. Tolstoy wrote short stories as well as long famous ones. I, a lazy reader, read through his short ones. Quite good. Some of them have been published as children picture books, do you know? Yes, let us live our lives fully and enjoy drawing and painting.
      You, too, have a nice week!!
      Best wishes, Sadami
      **at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.

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  12. You've right.............
    Enjoy your day !

    Pierre

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    1. Hi, Pierre,
      Thank you! Yes, that's the point and make others happy, too!
      Cheers, Sadami

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  13. Sorry for your friend Sadamy, she'll stay in your heart. Take care !
    The sketches are fantastic sa always, very lively.

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    1. Dear Lydie, thank you very much!
      Yes, she'll stay in my heart and I'll carry out the promise, I will make beautiful picture books!
      Very happy to know you have shared something important with me. Yes, let us live our lives fully and enjoy drawing and painting. You, too, have a nice week!!
      Best wishes, Sadami
      **at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.

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  14. Lovely illos, as always - and very inspirational post.
    love and hugs
    Pat xxxxxxxxxooooooooooooo

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    1. Hi, Pat, thank you very much! Very happy to know you have shared something important with me. Tolstoy wrote short stories as well as long famous ones. I, a lazy reader, read through his short ones. Quite good. Some of them have been published as children picture books, do you know? Yes, let us live our lives fully and enjoy drawing and painting.
      You, too, have a nice week!!
      Best wishes, Sadami
      **at the moment, my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.

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  15. Hi Sadami, Beautiful work, as always!! Hugs !! :)

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    1. Hi, Mari,
      Thank you very much!!
      Best wishes, Hugs, Sadami

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  16. Ciao Sadami,
    non sono riuscita a seguire molto la vicenda del funerale perchè il traduttore non funzionava, ma ho ammirato, come sempre, i tuoi lavori che, come ti ho detto altre volte destano in me ammirazione e sorriso: il massi,o no?
    Ciao, abbracci, Floriana

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    1. Ciao, Floriana,
      La ringrazio molto! Mi hai sempre rallegrare. Passiamo e incontrare un futuro.
      A proposito, il mio adattatore modem del computer è rotto. Quindi, non posso visitare il tuo blog e lasciare commenti o sia. Si prega di attendere un po '.
      Cordiali saluti, Sadami

      Hi, Floriana,
      Thank you very much! You always cheer me up. Let us move on and meet a future.
      By the way, my computer modem adapter is broken. So, I cannot visit your blog well or leave comments either. Please wait for a while.
      Kind regards, Sadami

      >>>Floriana said,
      Hello Sadami,
      I could not follow much the story of the funeral because the translator did not work, but I admired, as always, your work, as I have said on other occasions arouse admiration in me and smile: the rocks, or not?
      Hello, hugs, Floriana

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  17. Beautiful words, Sadami. The loss of your friend brought out some beautiful thoughts in you. Sad that a death of a loved one triggered the reflection, but all who read your post are a little wiser for it. Thank you.

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    1. Hi, Elva, thank u so much! Yes, indeed, it gives me insight. BTW my computer power adapter needs replacement. Technically, it takes a while to come back to normal. Please understand if I do not leave comments at your blog.
      So far, regarding the project, the colour is going well.
      Kind regards, Sadami

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  18. Death came into my life with violence, I was 24 and I lost my mother 50-year-old in a few days.
    The shock was great! After , everything has changed.
    When 19 years later I found my first cancer was because I've always done prevention,thanks to my mother. And my reaction was tenacious. Yes, life is right now. The things that matter are the ones we are doing. The most important person is the one that i meet now... In this precise moment, are you, Dear Sadami, ARTIST of color and life!

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    1. Dear Rita,
      Thank you for sharing your precious story. How painful for you to have lost your dearest mother and the experience of cancer! But you're brave enough to face the reality and handle it. As long as "you are the boss" of life, u can overcome difficulties.
      Regarding Tolstoy's story, the author's wisdom is brillinat.
      You, too, are a colourful artist with deep knowledge of life. Please take care and keep up.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  19. I am so terribly sorry about your loss. I saw a speech by Steve Jobs the other day. He repeated that old phrase that you never know when you are going to die, so live each day like it will be your last and one day you will be right. That is wisdom. Love your sketches as always!! And I am excited for you and your book.

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    1. Dear Dan,
      Thank you very much! Indeed, that's the wisdome, too, you mentioned above. Let us live this moment fully. Yes, the picture book project is ongoing! I'll do my best.
      Kind regards, Sadami

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  20. I am SO SO sorry about your friend, Sadami...your post is amazing, as always...I feel we should always live for today, because you never know what tomorrow brings...and as far as these watercolors..they are absolutely outstanding!! take care, my friend!!

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    1. Dear Hilda,
      Thank you very much for a caring comment. I've come back to Happy Sadami. With these wonderful friends' backup, I'll move on.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  21. I love the photographer paintings - posted with love for your lost friend. Just keep her in your heart and be happy for what you shared. Life is about making memories, so I try and make a nice memory every day, even if it is just a hug, so here is one for you. (No need to explain about the power adaptor!!!! :) xx

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  22. Dear Hilda,
    Thank you very much for a caring comment and the wonderful hug. I've come back to Happy Sadami. With these wonderful friends' backup, I'll move on.
    Best wishes, Sadami

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  23. Your sketches are very beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss. You do raise interesting questions.

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    1. Dear Carol,
      Thank you very much! Not me, but Tolstoy raised those wonderful Qs.
      Pardon my laziness to visit your blog these days(no internet connection at hand is terrible). You, too, have a wondreful week! Hopefully, the telephone company will fix it up.
      Kind regards, Sadadami

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