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Monday, May 20, 2013

Self Acceptance

Hi, Friends, did you enjoy a weekend?
Blog friends ask me, "How could you be always so positive?" To answer that question, I'll chat over "self-acceptance." "Unconditional self-acceptance" is the most precious insight I've learnt from psychology at uni. In short, with self-acceptance, I've become a happy and positive person! Today, it helps me accept myself and others in daily life.

Self acceptance is not easy, if a person does not understand who s/he is well. I come across so many people blaming on themselves too much or demanding themselves too much. Consider this question; do you want to "draw like Michelangelo"? Sure, all of us say, "No." But in fact, we tend to demand ourselves too much at a varied level in daily life. It hurts an individual deeply and ruins  self-esteem.

Art work is, indeed, a person's inner world and a relation with an outside world. It's a tragedy that a person struggles to paint like a famous artist and flawless. It's really sad that a person never gets satisfied with what s/he has created (actually not bad, nice!). A person repeatedly boasts old stories and lives in the past. S/he always curses at her/himself and consequently gets depressed. But a person tends to be blind to her/himself or hardly has an objective view. In other words, people harm themselves endlessly.

It's very a pain for a third party to see self harming people. As if bleeding people were hitting their heads against a huge same wall again and again, criticizing themselves dreadfully. Or people rigidly demand themselves more than they do/can. Or people do not appreciate what they do/can. Or people have a fear of a third party or an outside world or themselves. Or contradictorily, people have huge pride although they lack genuine confidence etc, etc. Too judgemental. Irrational thoughts depress people. Self acceptance can change those attitudes above, I've learnt.

The point of self-acceptance is to know who we are, become what we are fully. It requires honesty and courage to face our reality. But, if we only prefer what we want/desire in ourselves, it's not "unconditional." "Unconditional" is critically important -- whatever we did/do or despite the facts, if we love ourselves, it maximises our abilities. Then, we will bloom out what we have fully.  Let us chuck perfectionism into a bin! We, only human. Why not make mistakes? In my view, forgiveness is nearly equal self acceptance ; healthy self-love enables us to love others properly. That is the ultimate beauty of human behaviour, isn't it? I "joyfully" make mistakes and enjoy them all and learn a lot! (Does it make sense? I hope my sloppy English will make sense.)  

I hope I will create "Sadami's" picture books, not like any other illustrators's styles. Good news! I finished up the education picture book with Australian Council. The top and a team's feedback is "Excellent!" Happy surprise! Australian Council has kindly organised a courier to pick up my work this week. Yey!!
The trade picture book project is right on a track. I'll just do my best. 
Friends, please, never, ever hurt yourself. You're precious and beautiful, because you're you! Let's enjoy our lives fully and have fun in drawing.
Happy Painting!!    
(*The sketch above was a guest speaker at a church meeting. A psychologist and community worker for women's mental health. The speaker kindly gave me her favorite say, "Change thoughts(=attitude). Change Your World!" spot on!)


 



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35 comments:

  1. Como siempre es un placer visitar tu blog. Un saludo desde Huesca, España !

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    1. Muchas gracias, Manuel! Tu blog siempre muestra la hermosa obra. Mantenerse al día!
      Mejor wisehs, Sadami

      Thank you, Manuel! Your blog always shows beautiful work. Keep up!
      Best wisehs, Sadami

      >>>Manuel said...
      As always it is a pleasure to visit your blog. Greetings from Huesca, Spain!

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  2. This is post is wonderful, Sadami, I love the thoughts you express here! The message speaks to me, I could do with a little more self-acceptance. So thank you! And as always your post is accompanied by such lovely sketches!

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    1. Hi, Judy, thank u for warm cheers. Very happy to know you enjoyed the post. Please be kind to yourself. This is not egoistic, but you do not need to please anyone else, but yourself.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  3. GENIAL!! GENIAL!!
    Have a nice week.
    Best wishes.

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    1. Oh, J.Paz, thank u so much! You, too, GENIAL, GENIAL!! Have a wonderful week.
      Best wishes and hugs, Sadami

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  4. Unos dibujos preciosos, y pensamientos positivos muy en tu linea. Un abrazo.

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    1. ¡ Oh, gracias, Tina! Vamos a compartir la alegría en la obra de arte.
      Un saludo y un abrazo, Sadami

      Oh, thank you, Tina! Let's share joy in art work.
      Best wishes and a hug, Sadami

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      Precious drawings, and positive thoughts into your line. A hug.

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  5. Sadami, if I ever needed a 'pick me up' you are a tonic! What a great attitude you have and you pass this on to others with your bright and happy disposition. Thank you for being such an upbeat blogger that we enjoy visiting here :)

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    1. Hi, Ann, thank u and very happy to know you enjoyed the post. We have to go to a pub together one day! I believe we, human cannot be happy totally alone. So, tips to be happy is "sharing."
      Cheers, wink, wink, Sadami

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  6. Thank you. This is helpful. I started reading it thinking about my painting, about which I am pretty accepting. But of course it's about one's whole life, and I do need to forgive myself for not measuring up in many ways.

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    1. Hi, Barbara, thank u! Very happy to know this post has helped you. Yes, please forgive yourself, please yourself and be positive. When we judge ourselves too much, we demand others so at the same time. So, it's important to accept ourselves to enjoy human relationships in society.
      Kind regards, Sadami

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  7. I'll leave you the last word, it is excellent as are the illustrations of this post. Kisses!

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    1. Hi, Lydie, thank u so much! Yes, I'll keep that say for me and enjoy drawing more. Kisses, Sadami

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  8. Very insightful post, Sadami!
    I enjoyed the weekend very much, away from the computer :)
    We enjoyed the garden, some painting, some walking and most of all - sunshine :) x

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    1. Hi, Pat, thanks millions! I know we both try to keep computers away. Oh, you sound so nice. I enjoyed stretches and played with little children in a park! I love them all! Take care. Get well soon!!
      xxx Sadami

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  9. genial, Sadami, gracias por ser asi. Inimitable. un saludo.

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    1. Hola, Jose, muchas gracias! Vamos a disfrutar la vida y el dibujo!!
      Mis mejores deseos, Sadami

      Hi, Jose, thank you so much! Let's enjoy life and drawing!!
      Best wishes, Sadami

      >>>Jose said...
      great, Sadami, thank you for being so. Inimitable. a greeting.

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  10. Hi Sadami...all wonderful thoughts! I know we artists get so discouraged. One day up...one day down. It is sad that we can't just be happy--but there is so much "striving" and too much ego! I like what you wrote and I love your paintings as always. Thanks for the good advice.

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    1. Hi, Cleste, thank you for warm cheers. Yes, we know any person gets so dicouraged and gets hurt in our competitive modern society. But also, your say, "so much "striving" and too much ego" has the key to be happy -- I chucked too much ego into a bin. It liberated me and am still learning.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  11. Gracias Sadami por sus inteligentes palabras y por sus acuarelas...es ud. casi perfecta!ja,ja!

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    1. Hola, Beatriz,
      Gracias por sus cálidos aplausos y humor encantador!
      Mis mejores deseos, Sadami

      Hi, Beatriz,
      Thank you for your warm cheers and lovely humour!!
      Best wishes, Sadami

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      Thank you Sadami for her intelligent words and his watercolors... is almost perfect PC! HA-HA!

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  12. Beautiful thoughts!!!
    Have a nice week :)

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    1. Hi, Carlos, thanks millons for warm cheers!! You, too, have a nice week!
      Cheers, Sadami

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  13. Hello Sadami:) I really think this is a very interesting post. As a fact: I had some issues at work and had a conversation with my boss about it. From now on I try to change my thinking. I was self destructive. Too negative thinking. I promissed I will work hard to change it. So: a lot going on over here!
    So your advice is a good one!! Thank you for it:) Hugs! And your sketches are lovely especially the first one: it gave me a good laugh!xxx

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    1. Hi, Renate,
      Very happy to know this post has helped you. Please chuck negative thinking into a bin. Often "high expectations" have caused negative thinking. Since childhood, we have been trying hard to satisfy high expectations of parents, care givers, school teachers, society's competitive value systems etc. Let us stop for a while and think of why/when/how we had negative thoughts in busy days. If you find a hurted small yourself, hold her and be kind to her.
      Regarding the first sketch, hahahahaha!!!! yes, the young boy putting his head in a library's book shelf, asked me to sketch him. But at the end, my sketch impressed so much the boy and his girl frind. Hahahaha, we had a wonderful time there.
      Kind regards, Sadami


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    2. Thank you Sadami for your wise words. I will remember!xxx

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  14. wonderful thoughts - thanks for such an upbeat post! delightful sketches as always -- you will definitely make a 'Sadami' book :)

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    1. Thank u, Meera, you're always so nice!! You, too, keep up enjoying drawing.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  15. Wonderful advice, and so very true. I will read your post again, and probably again after that. Beautiful drawings/paintings as always!

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    1. Hi, Dan, thank u very much. Happy to know you enjoy this post. Yes, let us bloom out fully and become what we are fully.
      Best wishes, Sadami

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  16. Such a terrific post, Sadami! Good for you, you're an inspiration :) Love your sketches as always x

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    1. Hi, Tracy, thank you very much! You, too, are very an inspiratin!!
      xx Sadami

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  17. Sadami
    that works wonderful, great message! thank you!
    a big hug.... :))

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    1. Hi, Denise, thank u! You, too, take care and take it easy!
      A big hug!!

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